Sunday, 27 January 2013

Relatable Post | Being a Beauty Blogger

I get the impression that people who don't blog think that being a blogger is all sweetness and light; a bit of a game really. And I can see why people would think that because we do get to play with makeup, take pretty pictures and write about it... But then people don't see 'behind the scenes' to realise what we see, feel and hear on a daily basis. I think that no matter how big or small your blog is, you'll be able to relate to at least some of the points in this blog post. I know what we do is a hobby (for most of us) but I personally would love to be able to make a career out of it and I take my blog very seriously. There are so many thoughts and feelings that go with being a beauty blogger, it's not just about playing around, it's much more than that... I try and take the good with the bad, but here are just some of the thoughts I have on situations that I've been put in through beauty blogging.


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Opportunities
I'll start on a good note because let's be honest blogging can bring some absolutely amazing, out of this world opportunities... From seeing a press release of a soon to be released product before any member of the general public knows about it, to attending swanky events with some of the most famous faces in the industry. Fashion/beauty/lifestyle blogging can give you the best in experiences that you wouldn't get anywhere else, I never thought that I'd have done some of the things I've done when I started blogging.

New faces
Of course, the blogging community is massive and with things like Twitter we can all stay in touch and talk about what we all have in common... A passion, whether its for fashion, beauty or lifestyle. I have 'met' some of the most amazing people via twitter and actually met in real life some equally fab bloggers; Sinead (daintydollymix), Carla (girl with the golden touch), Ray (raywhoisshe), Tor (that's peachy), Lizzie (cupcakes and cosmetics), Frances (Frances Cassandra) and Annie (Quarter Life tales of Annie bean)... To name but a few and I hope to meet lots more this year!!

A massive makeup collection
Naturally, through beauty blogging my makeup collection has slowly grown bigger and bigger, it's nothing compared to some people's but my friends have been known to stare in awe at my collection. Some of them I've been lucky to receive from generous PR's and brands, others I've bought with my hard earned money... Which brings me onto another perk of being a blogger.

Samples 
The dreaded word that causes so many arguments and tension among beauty bloggers. I think some people try and take the high ground about samples, let's face it, everyone loves a freebie and anyone who says otherwise must be lying or have more money than sense. However, PR's and brands only have a limited budget when it comes to samples so naturally they give them to the blogs that they think will get them more coverage (makes sense, right?) but there's nothing more infuriating for me than when I see new bloggers asking for free samples with a sense of entitlement... Samples are one of the wonderful perks of being a blogger, but they are certainly not a given, so please don't tarnish the name of bloggers (as if it needs it!!) and keep your shopping lists to yourself.

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Rejection
While I'm on the subject of opportunities and samples, there's obviously the opposite feeling that comes with the whole notion of free stuff and fab events. Rejection and feeling a bit worthless. It's infuriating for me when I see someone with less than 100 followers asking for stuff and actually getting it.. Why?! That's as much the PR's fault as it is the blogger, if they are given in to of COURSE they're going to ask for more, because it becomes the norm! It's taken me 18 months to get over 500 GFC folllowers and I don't expect to have PR's falling over themselves to send me things, that's just not how it works and I don't expect it. You've got to take the good with the bad in beauty blogging and accept that there will always be someone with a bigger reach than you waiting to accept an opportunity. Although I've never been 'rejected' in the strictest of senses, that's because I don't ask for stuff... but I've been left feeling not good enough on a number of occasions and its an awful feeling.

Followers 
Seeing my following grow over a period of 18 months has been a roller coaster; with the new followers have always been unfollowers, who do so without having to give a reason. I suspect a lot of blog unfollowers are serial campers who follow just when I have a competition running, however I still get a bit of a wrench in my stomach when it happens, I work hard to gain followers and if I see them dropping like flies I worry a bit! Twitter followers are a little different, there are so many bots and fake accounts that an unfollow doesn't hurt so much, but then came the apps that tell you WHO has unfollowed, last night I had my favourite ever blogger/YouTuber unfollow me and It upset me quite a bit if I'm honest, I don't know what I did or said to make her do it or whether it's just twitter being a pain. Either way I was gutted and I've even gone as far as emailing to ask why, which may be seen as sad and a bit weird but I really admired her and am genuinely sad to lose her as a follower. I know followers aren't everything as people keep repeating but in this industry, followers talk. I know stats do too but followers are what people can see on the face of your blog, they're what make them contact you. Unfortunately, the more followers you have the more seriously you seem to be taken.

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Jealousy 
A terrible trait that rears it's ugly head when someone else gets what we wanted, I'm guilty of it and I'm sure most other bloggers are! We might not always show it but it happens, it's natural. I'm insanely jealous of the bloggers who have really 'made it' quickly, I want to know their secret weapon, their formula for success but there isn't one I don't think. Then there's things like the Cosmo Blog Awards which happen at the same time every year; bloggers stumble over one and other Yes you need to be good at what you do but I very much believe in being at the right place at the right time to get your big break... It's not necessarily what you know, it's who you know. 


Praise & Critcism 
At the end of the day we are posting ourselves onto a global stage which is open to anyone for them to pass judgement on us, our lives, and our work. I love it when someone tells me I'm doing something right whethe it's in a blog comment or on twitter, it gives me that warm fuzzy feeling. I'm quite lucky in the sense that I haven't had THAT much criticism and I've never had a troll. The key is, don't feed the trolls, they thrive on being noticed and they'll be sitting behind their computer rubbing their hands together when you give them that all important reaction. As for criticism, as long as its constructive I urge you to deal with it gracefully. Unless someone is saying 'you're a crap blogger and I don't like you' my advice is to just say thankyou for your feedback I'll definitely think about what you've said because at the end of the day, people aren't always going to tell you what you want to hear. I'd love to hear some constructive criticism and I'd love it if people could bring themselves to listen to me and be polite if I have something to say. 

Freedom of speech and expression 
Following on from that, I have noticed that I tone my opinions down A LOT on twitter, purely for fear of being set upon by what feels like a pack of wolves if I say the wrong thing. I've seen it happen and it's awful! It's like being back at school, I understand that there will be a difference of opinion no matter what but try and be nice about it. Don't be all underhanded and passive aggressive, be up front and adult about it. 

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Originality
There are thousands upon thousands of blogs now, the market is so saturated its become increasingly important to find your niche and write stuff that people actually want to read. I've figured that I'm just going to write what I want to write, what's the point in bowing down and becoming a slave to your blog, people notice when you're being fake and churning out posts that mean nothing to you. You lose your passion and it really shows. Being original is so hard, so just try and be yourself for a while, you might find it works just as well, I think we forget that our personality is the most original part of us, we can all wear disco pants and litas (well I can't cos I'm a bit fat), and covet the latest MAC collection but we can't copy each others personality, we are all different... And that's GOOD! there will be people who still don't like what you like, because they dislike your personally but that's life, you can't go through it being liked by everyone can you, for you to try and please every single person in this world would be impossible as well as a little foolish.

Phewf! That was one long post and well done if you managed to get to the bottom! 

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  1. Brilliant post... I'm a new blogger but have been tweeting for a long time, and I also have a 'wrench' when I lose a follower who means something to me. Your blog is great, don't take any notice of the haters :) x

    www.beths1986.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Being a new blogger is so hard, I remember how hard it was when I first started, if it's your passion though make sure you stick at it no matter what!

      Thanks for your kind words!
      xx

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  2. I bloody love this post. I've been thinking the exact same thing for a lot of your points, and you sum everything up perfectly. I really do loving the blogging community, but nothing can ever be perfect 100% of the time. There are downfalls but when you love blogging, the pros definitely outweigh the cons. :)

    Sarah xx
    flowersatdawn.blogspot.com

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    1. thanks :) you're right, the pros do outweigh the cons!! I couldn't imagine not blogging!

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  3. ahh this made me smile, its the ups and downs i have been going through too. But your blog is fab and keep up the hard work...it will pay off over time x
    your latest follower, Els

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  4. I'm still very very new at blogging but I have seen both the good and bad sides you've mentioned already! Some things make me quite jealous and it's a petty thing but its true!

    But like you said, aslong as everyone is patient and continuously works at their blog, good things will come from it!

    Great post!

    beautythoughts38.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. It's so hard not to get jealous when you see other people getting involved in such amazing things!!

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  5. Brilliant post. I can relate to most of the points you made. Sometimes I wish I could just say what I think on Twitter etc, but I know that I will be attacked. Before I knew how powerful Twitter is, I made a comment about a blog and I got a lot of abuse for saying what I think.

    I also always wonder how PR's pick their bloggers. I don't think it is based on the amount of followers or page views. It is a mystery.

    Oh, and it is the worst feeling ever when a blogger you really admire unfollows you. I got that recently, after her saying that she loves my blog etc.

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    1. really? to me there's no point saying you love something if you know you dont! especially to then go and unfollow!

      I can't work out how blogs get picked, I think if they like the look of your blog sometimes they'll contact you regardless!

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  6. I love this post, everything you say is completely right! I felt a bit of burnout after blogging for only a few months with the 'race' to buy and blog about all the new products - I'm not made of money! Learning to stop caring what people think and write about what makes you happy is an important part of it!
    With regards to followers and samples, the same! Some people act high and mighty about 'its not all about the followers', but lets be honest, if you didn't want anybody to see your posts, it's unlikely you'd be writing/promoting them! I love seeing new people have liked what I write and followed me so I can check them out too!
    Xx

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    1. you know what, when i first started blogging I bought loads, spent silly amounts of money because I wanted to try everything but now I've managed to reign my spending in. Not because I get samples but simply because I've learnt that I can still post about stuff without having to buy products eg. favourites, empties, how to's, tips and tricks etc.

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  7. I wrote a very similar blog post end of last year The Ugly Observations of 2012, with my thoughts from last year. I totally agree on the Originality bit - being yourself is the most important thing for blogging - why portray a fake personality? People will suss it out (and the blog). Also individuals copying people's blogs is really rude and annoying. I am enduring it at the moment, and it's disheartening because I feel all my hard work is wasted, only for someone to come and along and pinch my work. Grrrr.

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    1. Someones stolen your work?! How did I not know about this?! Hope it gets sorted ASAP!
      xx

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    2. You know me, I don't like to make a fuss lol. It's just really annoying that's all. I don't mind inspiration and etc, but when it's ideas copied, with a few changed words and etc, then that's annoying.

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  8. Jade, this is such a great post - especially for brand new bloggers like meee! Thank you :)

    I've only been doing it a month, new to Twitter, new to Instagram - WHAT WAS I DOING BEFORE THIS?

    Love Zoe x

    www.facevaluebeautyblog.co.uk

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  9. Fabulous post - so inspiring!
    I've had quite a few problems in the past with another blogger (whom I thought was my friend) who accused me of copying her and I was fairly new to blogging at the time and it caused me to have very different views of blogging altogether and soon stopped. I now have a new blog that's grown into something I am proud of and not ashamed of any more.
    Georgia xx

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    1. good on you!!! don't ever let anyone else stop you from doing something you love!!! x

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  10. This is such a great post, think every blogger out there can relate to a lot of if not all of these points!

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  11. This is a really good post, i've recently come back to blogging after a couple of years and the whole thing has changed! I had around 300 or so readers previously, and built those up from content and interaction, now my content hasn't changed but blogging has. I sort of feel like now, if you're skinny, blonde and have a lot of money to buy designer clothes you'll straight away get 1000 followers! Nothing wrong with that but i'm short, on the fat side and not exactly the most flush to buy all the latest stuff so feel like i'll never get anywhere nowadays in the blogging world. I just want readers to talk and interact with, i couldn't give 2 monkies about the PR Samples and Events, just want to know i'm not wasting my time typing my posts and taking my pictures, which i currently feel like i am because no matter what i write about, no one really seems to want to read it. I'm not moaning as such because i'll still write my blog because it's for me, but i just wonder how some people have 1000+ readers from posting 1 blog a week with nothing but a couple of photos and half a paragraph in....

    Blah, rant over - been a hard day and this post really spoke to me! Thanks for writing it!

    Hannah xx

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    1. no problem, i'm so pleased so many people can relate to it! I know exactly how you feel when you're writing and you feel like you're getting nowhere, like as if you're trying to wade through treacle!! I'm just holding out for that day that I get an explosion of popularity..... I think I'll be waiting a long time haha x

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  12. Great post, I totally get what you mean on most of the points, the blogging world is a very interesting and can be a fickle place, but I love most of it.

    I think as long as you can ignore all the crap its a great community to be part of, as always someone always ruins the party though but on the whole I enjoy it x

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    1. definitely agree with this... the good generally outweighs the good. Like with everything you just sometimes lose all interest and faith in it, it soon returns though in most cases!


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  13. I loved this post and this is the sort of thing that is great to know. I am doing a currently doing a giveaway and weary of the fake followers, but prepared for it after hearing other experiences :) Great blog btw.

    www.mintyessence.com

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    1. thankyou :) Definitely be prepared for a few unfollows but it might actually happen that you're lucky and you don't get any!! x

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  14. Such an amazing post! All of it is so true :) I love being part of this community there are so many lovely people you can share your interests with! xx

    http://belle-amiebeauty.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. me too, i love blogging! I couldn't imagine not doing it! x

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  15. This is such a great and well written post which I thoroughly enjoyed reading. The points you make are all so very true and as someone who's only been blogging for a short while, I do not have any expectations. Blogging is something I do purely for myself. I enjoy writing and writing about the things that I like and are of interest to me. The point you made about being original and true to who you are really hits the nail on the head.

    I have just started following you and am really looking forward to reading more of your posts in the future xx

    betweentodaytomorrow.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. thanks for the follow, glad you enjoyed the post! You're taking a great approach to blogging, good luck! x

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  16. Amazing blog and a lovely inspirational post! Am now following :D
    Would love a follow back :D
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  17. awww these a so lovely, and i totally agree with you about the followers.

    if its any consolation i love your blog
    and im your newest follower!
    xoXo
    BreezeyBee Blog

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  18. Really enjoyed reading this. I started my blog a couple of months ago and agree it's definitely an up and down feeling.

    Agreed with everything you said, especially about the followers. Twitter is even worse!

    Love how completely honest you've been in this post :)

    www.SamuelJamesMorris.com

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    1. thanks a lot, I think it does us good to be brutally honest once in a while!! :)
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  19. I can relate to this post completely. I work so so hard on my blog. What really frustrates me is people like my parents just not understanding. Like you i would love to make a career out of my blog. Whether it happens or not is another thing but I want to know that I have tried my hardest to try and make it happen. This is such a great post lovely.
    You are brave finding to find out who unfollows you, I'd rather not know. Twitter does tend to unfollow people randomly so the person who you were upset about probably doesn't even know that they have unfollowed you.
    I will stop rambling now.
    xx

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    1. Don't worry about rambling, I love rambles! My husband is slowly getting better with the idea of my blog, he's quite accepting of the fact that I want to go to events and stuff down in London so that's good!

      I contacted said unfollower via email and on twitter and I've never had a reply so I'm assuming she did mean to haha, I'm kinda over it now anyway! I just think I was lucky to have her follow me for so long!

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  20. I enjoyed reading your blog and blog post. Everyone needs to read this. I just started blogging about four months ago and I feel like my blog may get overlooked because I do not have a lot of followers. But for me the eighty-one I have seems like a lot and I appreciate it. Your post gives me a boost of confidence! Thank you:)

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  21. Great Post! Everything you say makes sense to me, i have been blogging just over 6 months & am loving it. It is a challenge writing a great post with so many blogs about
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  22. I blog about what I want when I want I hate the people that are like if you don't post soon I'll unfollow you it's pathetic! On a more positive note I really enjoyed reading this post and I'm now following you :) xxx coleoftheballl33.blogspot.co.uk

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  23. This is a lovely relevant post!
    Managing career and social life sometimes makes me wonder why I put myself through this but I honestly have to say that it I enjoy it.
    Yes sometimes PR girls are a bit bitchy (Sometimes other bloggers) but I have meat so fab people and been to some great events such a London Fashion Week and the IMATs. Freebees are always great but they are very few and far between,
    Happy blogging!
    http://wotshernameagain.blogspot.co.uk/

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