How 20 Seconds of Courage can Change Your Life

I'll be honest, I don't even really know where to start with this blog post.

I'm trying to find a word to describe 2017 as a year for me; 'eventful' would be one word to use I suppose. For these reasons, I've kept myself to myself where social media is concerned for quite a while now which has probably been a very good thing over the last past year because so much has happened in my life that frankly belongs as far away from social media as humanly possible.

I actually wrote a little bit about my 'quarter life crisis' about 2 and a half years ago (June 2015) and it did kind of touch on some of the issues. Basically I felt like I was failing at life; I didn't feel in control and although I took some steps to regain control such as getting a new job but there was still the age old issue of not having enough time to myself. My life was consumed by work and I had very little time to do anything for myself. I became a shadow of my former self and although I had done so much to try and change that (I lost weight and I got a new job) I still wasn't happy.

I'm not going to go into any detail really about it because I'm not the only party involved obviously, but part of my path to becoming the person I recognised again was to change my life completely. And that life change involved a divorce. I don't think I'll ever really want to discuss that publicly because I am not the only party involved and the reasons why are neither here nor there, the bottom line is I wasn't happy and I took steps to do something about it.

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So 2017 was a year of massive change, I spent 8 months living back at my mum's and then found and bought my own first house. Which I shall talk about in a little more detail in another blog post. Believe me, 2017 has tested me in so many ways but it has shown me that I am incredibly strong and I am able to face reality and deal with the consequences of my decisions. For the past 9 months I've felt more like myself than I have during my whole adult life and I can honestly say that I am exactly where I need to be right now. I'm still a working progress in some ways but I am well on my way to becoming my best self, as cliché as that sounds.

The purpose of this blog post is to let you know that if you're sitting there unhappy with your life you absolutely can change it. I never thought I could say the words that would ultimately lead to the end of my marriage but I can tell you now that all it takes is 20 seconds of insane courage...